"I have learned so many things from Alan's videos and being in the Improve Your Relationships Community. I have learned about attachment trauma and how it has affected my relationship with myself and others. I have also learned strategies to keep the focus on myself and regulate my thoughts and feelings. I used to be so controlled by outside forces and get really dysregulated. Now I've learned to sit with and observe my feelings. I don't judge them or base who I am on them. I use them as a guide for action!

The Community is so welcoming and supportive. We are all speaking a common language that's positive and uplifting. The Weekly Discussion Topics that we discuss are relevant to our recovery. And it's a safe place to share and not get the dysfunctional feedback we have gotten from the people in our past. I recommend the Community for sure."

"In the Community, I've learned that I am a student and teacher of life and myself. I've learned how special it is to empower my own learning, and the learning of others. I know it's okay to desire meaningful connection. It is courageous to reflect. I've learned that I control the pace of understanding myself and working with others. One of the unique things about the Community is how self-driven and inquisitive it is.

The community gives me new language and lenses to function within, and interpret my relationships. Membership evolves and so does my relationship with the Community's Weekly Discussion Topics. Alan does a great job of encouraging us to embrace the full range of living and healing—this includes celebrating joy and accomplishments, naming goals, reflecting on gratitude, turning to research and many activities involving the mind and body. We find what works for us."

"I highly recommend the Community. I've been a member now for about 2.5 years. I have learned and grown so much. It isn't just learning online. This stuff ripples out into real life. It's such a joy to be healing alongside others who are striving for the same things.

I learned how to rely on myself. I came from a background where I relied heavily on codependency. I would not budge without first receiving instructions to move. Today, I am able to lead with my own decisions. I now consider my options and choose what is best for me.

What I love about the community is how much I feel seen. I feel like I’m among family. Each day, I check-in with where I’m at and then people respond. Members remember me and care about me. It’s no longer the one-sided relating that I’m used to where I’m doing all the chasing. I’m experiencing two-sided relating instead."

"I have learned so many things from Alan's videos and being in the Improve Your Relationships Community. I have learned about attachment trauma and how it has affected my relationship with myself and others. I have also learned strategies to keep the focus on myself and regulate my thoughts and feelings. I used to be so controlled by outside forces and get really dysregulated. Now I've learned to sit with and observe my feelings. I don't judge them or base who I am on them. I use them as a guide for action!

The Community is so welcoming and supportive. We are all speaking a common language that's positive and uplifting. The Weekly Discussion Topics that we discuss are relevant to our recovery. And it's a safe place to share and not get the dysfunctional feedback we have gotten from the people in our past. I recommend the Community for sure."

"In the Community, I've learned that I am a student and teacher of life and myself. I've learned how special it is to empower my own learning, and the learning of others. I know it's okay to desire meaningful connection. It is courageous to reflect. I've learned that I control the pace of understanding myself and working with others. One of the unique things about the Community is how self-driven and inquisitive it is.

The community gives me new language and lenses to function within, and interpret my relationships. Membership evolves and so does my relationship with the Community's Weekly Discussion Topics. Alan does a great job of encouraging us to embrace the full range of living and healing—this includes celebrating joy and accomplishments, naming goals, reflecting on gratitude, turning to research and many activities involving the mind and body. We find what works for us."

"I highly recommend the Community. I've been a member now for about 2.5 years. I have learned and grown so much. It isn't just learning online. This stuff ripples out into real life. It's such a joy to be healing alongside others who are striving for the same things.

I learned how to rely on myself. I came from a background where I relied heavily on codependency. I would not budge without first receiving instructions to move. Today, I am able to lead with my own decisions. I now consider my options and choose what is best for me.

What I love about the community is how much I feel seen. I feel like I’m among family. Each day, I check-in with where I’m at and then people respond. Members remember me and care about me. It’s no longer the one-sided relating that I’m used to where I’m doing all the chasing. I’m experiencing two-sided relating instead."

"I have learned so many things from Alan's videos and being in the Improve Your Relationships Community. I have learned about attachment trauma and how it has affected my relationship with myself and others. I have also learned strategies to keep the focus on myself and regulate my thoughts and feelings.

I used to be so controlled by outside forces and get really dysregulated. Now I've learned to sit with and observe my feelings. I don't judge them or base who I am on them. I use them as a guide for action!

The Community is so welcoming and supportive. We are all speaking a common language that's positive and uplifting.

The Weekly Discussion Topics that we discuss are relevant to our recovery. And it's a safe place to share and not get the dysfunctional feedback we have gotten from the people in our past. I recommend the Community for sure."

"In the Community, I've learned that I am a student and teacher of life and myself. I've learned how special it is to empower my own learning, and the learning of others. I know it's okay to desire meaningful connection. It is courageous to reflect. I've learned that I control the pace of understanding myself and working with others. One of the unique things about the Community is how self-driven and inquisitive it is.

The community gives me new language and lenses to function within, and interpret my relationships. Membership evolves and so does my relationship with the Community's Weekly Discussion Topics.

Alan does a great job of encouraging us to embrace the full range of living and healing—this includes celebrating joy and accomplishments, naming goals, reflecting on gratitude, turning to research and many activities involving the mind and body. We find what works for us."

"I highly recommend the Community. I've been a member now for about 2.5 years. I have learned and grown so much. It isn't just learning online. This stuff ripples out into real life. It's such a joy to be healing alongside others who are striving for the same things.

I learned how to rely on myself. I came from a background where I relied heavily on codependency. I would not budge without first receiving instructions to move. Today, I am able to lead with my own decisions. I now consider my options and choose what is best for me.

What I love about the community is how much I feel seen. I feel like I’m among family. Each day, I check-in with where I’m at and then people respond.

Members remember me and care about me. It’s no longer the one-sided relating that I’m used to where I’m doing all the chasing. I’m experiencing two-sided relating instead."

"I have learned about attachment trauma and codependency in ways that have been so profound to my life.

It has released a lot of shame and I have a much more compassionate relationship with myself.

I love being in Community with other members; they all bring so much insight and wisdom from their journey as well as empathy and compassion."

"The Community is a safe space to explore and learn about attachment trauma and attachment styles.

The Self-Directed framework allowed me to create a truly personalized program at my own pace and on my own schedule.

In addition to Alan’s guidance and instruction, there is a community of insightful, inspiring, and kind people to help me focus, heal and grow."

"When I joined, I was about to exit therapy and wanted a place to continue my growth. The collective support and insight have been invaluable. Topics like attachment styles, secure relationships, trauma, family systems, boundaries, and knowing my values used to be difficult to understand. The brainstorming with others, articles and videos provided by Alan, made this language travel from my head to my heart. What a gift to have friends to make the journey with."

"I have learned about attachment trauma and codependency in ways that have been so profound to my life. It has released a lot of shame and I have a much more compassionate relationship with myself. I love being in Community with other members; they all bring so much insight and wisdom from their journey as well as empathy and compassion."

"The Community is a safe space to explore and learn about attachment trauma and attachment styles. The Self-Directed framework allowed me to create a truly personalized program at my own pace and on my own schedule. In addition to Alan’s guidance and instruction, there is a community of insightful, inspiring, and kind people to help me focus, heal and grow."

"When I joined, I was about to exit therapy and wanted a place to continue my growth. The collective support and insight have been invaluable. Topics like attachment styles, secure relationships, trauma, family systems, boundaries, and knowing my values used to be difficult to understand. The brainstorming with others, articles and videos provided by Alan, made this language travel from my head to my heart. What a gift to have friends to make the journey with."

"I have learned about attachment trauma and codependency in ways that have been so profound to my life. It has released a lot of shame and I have a much more compassionate relationship with myself.

I love being in Community with other members; they all bring so much insight and wisdom from their journey as well as empathy and compassion."

"The Community is a safe space to explore and learn about attachment trauma and attachment styles. The Self-Directed framework allowed me to create a truly personalized program at my own pace and on my own schedule.

In addition to Alan’s guidance and instruction, there is a community of insightful, inspiring, and kind people to help me focus, heal and grow."

"When I joined, I was about to exit therapy and wanted a place to continue my growth. The collective support and insight have been invaluable. Topics like attachment styles, secure relationships, trauma, family systems, boundaries, and knowing my values used to be difficult to understand. The brainstorming with others, articles and videos provided by Alan, made this language travel from my head to my heart. What a gift to have friends to make the journey with."

"This community has helped me chart a new course in life. I feel a sense of belonging that is deeply gratifying. A huge thank you to Alan and other members for being genuinely supportive, caring, and understanding."

"I've been a member since the community began. I highly recommend it. It provides structure, yet is also completely flexible. I've learned so much. I encourage anyone interested in new skills to join us."

"This is one of the best communities on the web. I get a lot of great advice, straightforward, no-nonsense conversation, pinpointing change and healthy awareness. We help each other heal. Thank you."

"I've learned so much about myself. It’s great to be surrounded by people who understand what you’re going through. One of the best decisions ever made on my journey of repairing myself and learning to manage emotions."

"I have been propelled into some new territory since joining the community. There has been lots of internal growth, some tangible changes in my life as well. So I'm strapping on my seat belt and enjoying this process."​

"I love that there is so much knowledge and wisdom in this community! Knowing that whatever I’m going through, someone here has been through it or that there’s information on it too is astounding! I am so grateful."​

"This is one of the best communities on the web. I get a lot of great advice, straightforward, no-nonsense conversation, pinpointing change and healthy awareness. We help each other heal. Thank you."

"I love that there is so much knowledge and wisdom in this community! Knowing that whatever I’m going through, someone here has been through it or that there’s information on it too is astounding! I am so grateful."​